This post is part of a series on the cause of orphan care, adoption and social change that I hope to make you as passionate about as I am. You may want to start from the beginning if you’re just joining us.
The last three posts have discussed adoption as a lifeline, a last chance for children who otherwise will never know the love and permanence of a family. In some ways, you might say that adoption is one way to "try and stop the bleeding."
But the truth is that for every six children who become orphans, only one will be adopted. That leaves five who won’t be.
Some of these children are trapped in a foster care system that doesn’t value permanence and lets kids shuffle from family to family until they are "adults" at age 18.
Others may wait their entire childhood without being adopted. This typically happens because that child is male, or mixed race, or part of a sibling group, or needs corrective surgery, or has special needs, or some combination of the above.
As I wrote previously, adoption needs to grow as a solution to the global orphan crisis. It would be incredible if the lifeline of adoption could be thrown to two or three or four out of each six new orphans every year. But right now – with all of the government, legal and financial barriers in the way – it’s just one out of six.
The total numbers continue to be staggering.
In a given year, about 250,000 children find forever families through adoption. Another 1.4 million children (among them 30,000 US foster kids) age out of the system, becoming "orphans for life."
The outcomes for these "forever orphans" is particularly startling. I don’t have international numbers, but among those in the US who reach age 25, 50% of males are unemployed, 60% convicted of a crime; and 75% of females are on public assistance.
In all, some 15 million children without either a mom or dad (500,000 of them in the US foster care system) wait for permanence. Another 130 million children have lost at least one parent, and are classified as orphans because their one remaining parent can’t effectively care for them.
So if you can’t adopt (and many cannot) or if you’ve already adopted all that you can, what are some ways we can fulfill our calling to "defend the fatherless" and care for these orphans?
I see three big ways to care for orphans.
1. Volunteer to Serve Them
Overseas, government orphanages often have 15 or 20 children for each caregiver, and even the best-run private orphanages often have 7 children to a caregiver. Spending your time and using your talents by traveling overseas to give some individual attention to children and some relief to the caregivers can make a huge impact on both you and them.
Writing about this instantly brings to mind when I walked into the young boys room at the Holt transition center in Addis Ababa. I believe I was mistaken for a rock climbing wall because I instantly had about eight six-year-olds hanging from every limb and sixteen hands feeling my very strange hair! These boys were all in the process of being adopted and took turns showing me the photo books their forever families had sent them. It was precious to spend some time with them, and it was amazing to see them light up with just a little one-on-one interaction.
Here at home, there are a variety of things we can do, from big brother / big sister programs geared toward foster youth or at-risk kids, to inviting teens or young adults without a family to your home for Thanksgiving.
At Sierra College (where I serve on the board), our foundation has put together a great effort for newly-emancipated foster youths coming to college and on their own for the first time. They raise money to put together backpacks filled with everything from soap to pencils to gift cards at local stores to a refurbished computer and a $250 voucher for textbooks. The gratitude on the faces of these kids is unbelievable.
And for those of us who are people of faith, I think it’s our responsibility to constantly keep all of these children without families in our prayers.
2. Raise and Donate Supplies
In the United States, our state and local governments provide funding for foster parents. Overseas, most private orphanages have no such funding and exist solely on donations or adoption program fees. So if you can’t adopt another child right now, maybe you should adopt an orphanage!
Every orphanage will have a different set of needs, but the typical ones can be diapers, formula, children’s clothing of all sizes, coats, shoes, educational supplies and toys. Basically, if you need it to run a household with a lot of children, you need it at an orphanage!
3. Sponsor an Orphan’s Education
I think it’s great that many overseas orphanages cover their expenses through adoption program fees paid by adoptive parents. While it does present a financing challenge for the parents, it creates fundraising opportunities tied to achieving permanence for specific children, and the money has to come from somewhere.
One of the challenges at some orphanages is that the funding simply isn’t there to pay school fees for a child. This is especially true if a child becomes "unadoptable" for any of the reasons I mentioned above. When these kids age out of the system, they need the basic skills that education can provide, or most will be doomed to a life of severe poverty. Sponsoring their education can make a huge difference.
Is Orphan Care a Solution?
Orphan Care is very similar to Adoption. Spending our time, talent and treasure to care for orphans isn’t the silver bullet that will magically solve the global orphan crisis.
There is no silver bullet or magic wand, but the next piece of the puzzle is what I’ve come to refer to as Orphan Prevention: working to address developing world poverty in a way that can prevent many children from becoming orphans in the first place.
In many ways, it’s my hope that in the coming years, the combination of Adoption and Orphan Prevention can all but eliminate the need for Orphan Care.
In the mean time, it’s critically important that we give these children a taste of the love and permanence they crave, while equipping them with the tools to thrive after they age out of the system.